I’ll be the first to be honest in admitting that I’m not the easiest person to befriend. I’m opinionated, sarcastic, vocal, brutally honest, and I make up my mind pretty darn quickly. In other words, if I don’t like you right out of the gate, there’s a slim chance that I will change my mind. (the exception to this rule being my two best friends, of course!)
If I’m such an ass, then why are people friends with me? According to my husband, I can converse with almost anyone, have a wicked sense of humor,intelligence, and sass.
Despite my faults, I have a lot of friends, both online, and in real life. Some are closer than others, of course, so I like to classify them, especially when I’m talking to Brett.
Internet Sisters
These are the marvelous women I’ve gotten to know online, through blogging, Twitter, and my former addiction to message boards.They’ve been a source of support throughout my pregnancy, show me how to save money, teach me how to be a better family manager, and understand blogging like no one else. I was lucky enough to meet some of these gals in Baltimore.
C Listers
These can be folks I know from work, church, various playgroups, or through business relationships with my husband. I may share some common interests with them, but these relationships can be best described as ‘on the surface’. I only know the first layer of these folks, and probably only share that much with them as well. Sometimes they move up, others stay on the C List forever.
B Listers
These are the majority of my friends, or the girls I know, like, and trust. (as defined by dictionary.com) These are the mommas you’ll see me with at the park, the zoo, or the much too rare Mom’s Night Out. I call on these women for parenting tips, to gush about my husband, or to share the latest Ann Taylor sale haul. Like peeling back the layers of an onion, these relationships go much deeper.
A Listers
This select group only has a handful of members, some of whom I’ve written about before.These are my very best and dearest friends; the first people I call to celebrate life’s joys, blow off steam when I’m angry, and cry on their shoulders when I’m hurt. I’d trust them with my children, and consider them an integral part of my life.
A network of friends is vital to my health, on so many levels. It helps me to be a better mother, a better wife, and to manage my home more effectively. I’m blessed to have a successful, happy marriage, but there are things that my girlfriends provide for me that my husband can’t. Even though we are partners in the greatest sense, meeting your spouse’s every social need would be a recipe for disaster. There are things that Brett just doesn’t understand, yet I would barely have to say a word to my girls for them to dissect the entire situation and offer advice and support.
Speak up! Share some comments with me about your friends!
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